Friday, May 1, 2015

Living With A Strong Woman.

The Combat of Ares and Athena -- Jacques-Louis David, 1771

Living with a strong, independent woman isn't the easiest task in the world, but it is highly rewarding. You never have to worry about her being weak or undependable. A strong woman is able to take charge and do things her own way, no matter the obstacle set before her. As a partner, it can sometimes be strenuous to let loose the reins and allow someone else to lead the way. It's especially hard on a partner who tries to be a decent and confident leader in their own right. Typically, such partners want to play the role of the gallant knight and are willing to do everything for their princess.

Herein exists the major divide such partners must cross, though. A strong, independent woman is no princess. They're more like regal queens whom never need to be rescued. To be honest, they usually rescue the knight.

In order to have a healthy relationship with such a dignified and self-sufficient woman, here are a few pieces of advice that every partner should consider. Trust me... I speak from experience.
  • Never assume you have to do anything. A strong woman wants you to do things because you want to, not because she asked you. Ultimately, such a fine woman hopes for you to be just as independent as she is. She expects you to think for yourself and make decisions on your own.
  • Be prepared to defend your position. When you have a disagreement with a strong woman, she will never back down. If your idea or concept is favorable, then be prepared to show why without causing a fight.
  • If you do happen to get into an argument with a strong woman, sometimes the best course of action is to not say anything. Within such a woman is a fiery pit of determination. This can at times create unnecessary tension, especially if you also possess a highly determined personality. Just say "I don't want to fight" and walk away. Cooler heads will prevail soon after.
  • A strong woman will love you with everything she's got, to a fault. Even though she can take care of herself, that doesn't mean she's not vulnerable. Strong women are extremely loyal to the ones they love. Violate that loyalty and you'll break her heart...
  • ...by which she'll promptly break your face. Never, ever cross a strong woman. If you do, the probability of her accepting you back is extremely low. You should be very afraid of what's coming next. She's not going to accept your transgression so lightly. A wilting flower she is not!
  • True strength within a woman of such a high caliber is a treasure to behold. She can swing an axe, build a planting box, file her own taxes, bake a cake, drive for ten hours straight, fly a plane and sing like an angel... all before dinner time. Understand that she really does not NEED you to get by in life. Don't take it personally.
  • Concurrently, understand that she WANTS you in her life. For someone so special and talented to love you, that's the ultimate compliment.
  • When all else fails, just listen to what she's saying and go with it. A strong woman accepts that sometimes her partner's perspective is correct, but usually it is not. Many times, she'll even move ahead with her own plans without your input. In these moments, just listen to what she has to say. The trust you share in your relationship is critical at these junctures. The same faith that you put into your love must also be put into her. Let her lead and don't worry so much about following. A strong woman will never lead you astray.
The love of a capable, brilliant woman is something that will sustain you for a lifetime. Treat her like the wondrous, prodigal bombshell that she is. You won't meet another woman quite like her in all your years. I guarantee it.

1 comment:

  1. I know what your saying Jared and I love her too

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